Putting Romance Back Into
by: Mark McAuley
Let me start by saying I am not a psycholigist or therapist, I am just
a guy, who was married for 16 years, until that ended about a year and a
half ago. I am now in a new and exciting relationship, which I believe
will work out great. I am forty years old and just speaking from
experience. Hopefully these tips I give you will spice up your love life
Often times in a marriage or long-term relationship, couples tend to
fall into a routine. What maybe started out as a very romantic
relationship, begins to slow down as bills, children, work and all the
pressures of life conspire to give us stress and lead us away from what is
I would venture to guess that most divorces stem from this problem. You
see each other As a business partner, parenting partner, chore partner.
But not so much as a lover. You have to drive the kids here and there,
while your partner is getting the groceries. There is always something to
do,and it usually does not include being alone with your partner.
Every once in a while you remember what it was like in the beginning,
and think why canít it be like that again. By the way, both sexes think
this, the problem is they only think it, and usually donít talk about it.
When the kids are small, I know it isnít as easy to make time for each
other, but the most important thing you can do for your marriage is to
MAKE time. If that means getting grandma and grandpa to watch the kids
overnight, or splurging on a babysitter once a week, it would be the best
investment you could make in your marriage.
If you could get away with your partner for a date night once a week,
you wonít regret it. Whether going out for dinner, or a movie, or a long
walk together, it will bring the two of you closer together. Plus, getting
away from the kids is a great stress reliever.
Then when you get back home, still with no kids around, a great way to
spice things up in the bedroom, is with lingerie. It may sound clichť, but
it really works. Think about it ladies, your partner sees you all week as
a mom, housekeeper, breadwinner. The last thing he is thinking of you as,
is a bedroom goddess. Believe me, if you come home after a nice night out,
and you go upstairs and put on a beautiful piece of lingerie, a nice
teddy, or corset, body stocking, or bustier, youíre partner will
definitely be put into the mood.
It will make him see you as he used to see you. More than a mom, etc.
After all, isnít that what you want?
But, donít stop there. A great way to spice things up is to try things
you never tried before. That could be something as simple as bringing some
food into the mix, you know strawberries, whip cream, things like that.
Then, there is always the massage, everybody loves a massage with warm
oil. Just the fact you are doing things differently will really help spice
things up. We all know that we fall into a routine in the bedroom after a
while. The only cure for that is to change things around.
So, hopefully this will help you to get back on the right track. Good
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